FLEE!!! – DAY 3

day-3DAY 3

ADULTERY & IDOLATRY

Hello family☺️, It is DAY 3 of the series on sexual immorality and restoration. I pray you get blessed. Thanks. God bless.🙏🤗

Adultery is defined as voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not his or her spouse.

Idolatry is defined as the worship of idols or the extreme admiration, love, or reverence for something or someone.

Today, many marriages are crashing because one or both couples are not faithful. Before the marriage, the couples loved one another so much but after the marriage, the love seems to start dying, and they seem like total strangers to one another. We have established the fact that pre-marital sex is bad and same is extra-marital sex. Sex is limited to the bounds of marriage, outside of it is a sin. The couples are bounded in God, made their vows to one another before God, and they are to remain faithful to one another.

We shouldn’t lust over another man or woman and have sex with them. Adultery is definitely prohibited among believers and this is clearly stated in the ten commandments in Exodus 20:14 (NLT), “You must not commit adultery” and the other is similar in vs. 17, “…you must not covet your neighbor’s wife.”

Now, Jesus Christ came and raised the bar even higher in Matthew 5: 27 – 28, “You have heard the commandment that says, ‘You must not commit adultery.’But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. So, adultery isn’t restricted to you having intercourse with another man or woman who you are not married to, but just looking at a woman or man lustfully is adultery. It is okay to admire a woman or a man, but the moment you start staring at them, lusting over them and in your heart you wish you could have sex with them, that is pure adultery, and many are very guilty of this, and we must ask for forgiveness.

This is why the Bible say in 1Corinthians 7: 2 (NLT), “But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.” So, if you can’t tame and control your sexual urges before marriage, it is okay to get married and stay faithful to your partner. Of course, after you have both prayed about it and you made sure your partner is a believer.

And in vs. 3 – 4, it says, “The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs.The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.” The husband and the wife must satisfy one another sexually, so no-one will have any reason to go outside and have sex with someone else.

Vs. 5 says, “Do not deprive each other of sexual relations unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”

So, abstinence should be consensually and agreed upon. If you are going on a fast, make it a reasonable number of days. For instance, don’t go on 40 days fast. This will only push your partner out and cause them to commit adultery. The devil knows sex is pleasurable and he is aware that many people do not have self-control in that department. So, we must be careful not to cause others to sin or stumble (1 Corinthians 10:32 – NIV).

2 Timothy 2: 22 (NIV) says, Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” Because this verse says, “youthful desires” doesn’t make it restricted to teenagers. Some young and older adults also get caught up in some youthful desires. After some time in marriage, they want to go out and “feel young again.” So, they go out into the world and look for a younger person or a prostitute, and they become their sugar daddies and mummies. So,  we must be very careful not to give in to this desires. Our flesh is like a spoilt brat and wants everything, good or bad. But we can’t afford to give the flesh all it wants, and this is why we must crucify the flesh with its passions and desires – Galatians 5:24. 

Proverbs 5 is a must read for every married couple. It warns us of the dangers of adultery and how to avoid it. This chapter is so excellent and perfect. And even though it is talking more to men, it is also good for women, and we are going to look at it from both perspectives. Let’s take a look at some verses in this chapter together.

VS 3. “For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil.”

We must be careful. It all starts with the talks. For example;

Immoral Woman: Hello handsome, Do you know how dashing you are?

Married man: Well, thank you. (Mumbles to self: my wife never tells me that)

Immoral Woman: Here is my card, give me a call.😉

OR

Immoral man: Wow, did you fall from heaven? You are gorgeous

Married woman:☺️ You flatter me, thank you. My husband clearly never sees that.

Immoral man: Really, then something must be wrong with his vision. Give me a call if you need me. Winks

I know, I know 😄I have watched way too many movies. But, it is true and real guys.

We must be very careful of the sugar coated, honey coated and seductive words. Don’t let them get to you. Don’t take the card and if you do, rip it and throw it away and DO NOT go back to pick it up. Remember, FLEE! Because vs. 4 – 6 tells us the real character of such immoral person, “But in the end, she (he) is as bitter as poison, as dangerous as a double-edged sword. Her (His) feet go down to death; her (his) steps lead straight to the grave. For she (he) cares nothing about the path to life. She (he) staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t realize it.”  Some of these people we go outside to have sex with might have so many diseases in their bodies and laying with your spouse after you laid with them could spread the disease, and such is not fair at all. We shouldn’t let our selfishness and greediness cost other people.

Vs. 8 – 10 says, “Stay away from her (him)! Don’t go near the door of her (his) house. If you do, you will lose your honor and will lose to merciless people all you have achieved. Strangers will consume your wealth, and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labor.” It is really sad that after all our labor we go out and spend it on promiscuous women and men. We should use that money to care for our families. Some married couples weren’t rich before and after they got married and had to labor for all they achieved. They loved and were faithful to each other when they had nothing. But suddenly, they get rich and believe they have to act rich by sleeping with strangers for sex.

Vs 15 – 20 says, “Drink water from your own well, share your love only with your wife (Have sex with your own wife or husband, be contempt). Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone? You should reserve it for yourselves.Never share it with strangers. Let your wife (husband) be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife (husband) of your youth (Where did the love go? Remember when you two used to love each other so much? What happened to that? hun) She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always (Let his chest satisfy you always too). May you always be captivated by her love. Why be captivated, my son, by an immoral woman, or fondle the breasts of a promiscuous woman? (Why? Many men already fondled with her breast, so why? Why not go home to your wife?)

We must take vs. 21 – 23 to heart very well, “For the Lord sees clearly what a man does, examining every path he takes. An evil man is held captive by his own sins; they are ropes that catch and hold him. He will die for lack of self-control; he will be lost because of his great foolishness.” Self-control is a fruit of the Holy Spirit that we must pray and ask for. We need it.

Let’s take a look at Proverbs 6: 25 – 29, Don’t lust for her beauty. Don’t let her coy glances seduce you. For a prostitute will bring you to poverty, but sleeping with another man’s wife will cost you your life. Can a man scoop a flame into his lap and not have his clothes catch on fire? Can he walk on hot coals and not blister his feet? So it is with the man who sleeps with another man’s wife.He who embraces her will not go unpunished.”  Sleeping with another man’s wife will cost you your life, and you will be punished for it. Hebrews 13: 4 (NLT) says, “Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.”

A perfect example of this is David’s adultery with Bathsheba in 2 Samuel 11; please read the story if you haven’t. Bathsheba was married to Uriah and David knew this, but he went ahead and slept with her while her husband was fighting at war. Long story short, he arranged for Uriah’s death, and he married Bathsheba, INTENTIONALLY.  You see, the story didn’t end there. As mentioned earlier, adultery will be punished. So, in 2 Samuel 12, God sent prophet Nathan to David to tell him about his sin and his punishment. God gave David, his master’s (Saul’s) wives while Uriah only had one wife. Still, David coveted her and killed him.

Vs. 10 – 11 says, “From this time on, your family will live by the sword because you have despised me by taking Uriah’s wife to be your own. (This prophecy came to pass when David’s son  Amnon (2 Samuel 13:29), Absalom (2 Samuel 18:15) and Adonijah (1 Kings 2:25) all died by the sword). “This is what the Lord says: Because of what you have done, I will cause your own household to rebel against you. I will give your wives to another man before your very eyes, and he will go to bed with them in public view. You did it secretly, but I will make this happen to you openly in the sight of all Israel.” This prophecy also occurred when Absalom rebelled against David and publicly has sex with his concubines on a rooftop (2 Samuel 16: 22). Guys, the same God then, is still the same God now, and he hates adultery. David confessed his sin with Bathsheba in Psalm 51and repented. He asked God to create in him a clean heart and wash him of his sins, which God did. And David remained the man after God’s own heart.

What I am trying to say is, you might have already committed adultery and maybe suffered some consequences for it. But, it is never too late to ask for forgiveness and go back to God. Please don’t keep dwelling in that sin, come out of it and love your own partners.

Sexual immorality, particularly adultery is a huge deal because it can be equated to idolatry. Idolatry is committing a spiritual adultery against God. We are God’s children, and he is our father, he loves us so much and doesn’t want to share us with anyone. So, when we separate ourselves from God or start paying more attention to something else other than God, we commit idolatry. God used Hosea’s life as a perfect illustration of this. Please also read Hosea chapter 1-3, if you haven’t. Thanks.

Hosea 1: 2 (NLT), “When the Lord first began speaking to Israel through Hosea, he said to him, “Go and marry a prostitute, so that some of her children will be conceived in prostitution. This will illustrate how Israel has acted like a prostitute by turning against the Lord and worshiping other gods.” Can you just imagine a true prophet of God marrying a prostitute? That is total opposites. In fact, the Bible says in 2 Corinthians 6: 14, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” But God asked Hosea to take that risk to show how much he loves us regardless. But we are asked not to do the same, because obviously as we can see from ourselves, unbelievers will always act like one and go back to their vomits no matter how much love you show them. Even some believers go back too. But despite that,  God remains faithful to us and keeps loving us, just as he told Hosea in Hosea 3:1 (NLT), “Then the Lord said to me, “Go and love your wife again, even though she commits adultery with another lover. This will illustrate that the Lord still loves Israel, even though the people have turned to other gods and love to worship them.”

What exactly is out there that we keep going back to when we have God? It’s the same thing when we are married, sure your husband or wife may not be perfect, we are all working towards perfection in Christ.

But, trust me the grass is not that greener on the other side. Every couple has issues going on and with God’s help with can go through them. So, please don’t leave your spouse and yoke yourself with someone else outside.

I’ll end with this, Malachi 2: 13 – 16 (NLT), “Here is another thing you do. You cover the Lord’s altar with tears, weeping and groaning because he pays no attention to your offerings and doesn’t accept them with pleasure. You cry out, “Why doesn’t the Lord accept my worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the Lord witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows. Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit, you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth. “For I hate divorce!” says the Lord, the God of Israel.“To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,” says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”

So, please let’s remain faithful to one another in our marriages. Pray to God, and he will help you both through it all. Temptations are going to come your way, but with God’s grace, we can prevail. Remember, it is a sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it (James 4: 17 – NLT). So, we know better, please let’s act better. May God help us in Jesus name. AMEN.

Thank you so much for reading. Do not hesitate to get in touch if you have a question, need encouragement, support, accountability or have a prayer request. Just fill out the form on the CONTACT  page.

Please, stick around and be back here tomorrow for DAY 4 – Don’t Judge me! 😉 Here is the link  FLEE! – DAY 4

God bless. Much Love❤️

Esther Ademiju. 


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